I’m a firm believer that if we fixed the family unit, we’d have less problems in society. It’s easier said than done, aye? The reality is that family is an institution not really respected by many. However, that does not mean that the family unit has to continue to struggle…family can flourish but in order for that to happen we have to fight for it.
Getting married is the easy part, yes, coordinating both sides of the family, setting a date, dealing with the suppliers and experiencing the big day have nothing on staying married. Saying ‘I do’ in action every single day is where the work is.
Some times this means making some hard decisions for the sake of the family unit. For instance, taking a lesser paying job so that you can be more present at home. You don’t start being a ‘family’ when the children come, it begins on the day that you vow to take each other as husband and wife, to have and to hold (y’know how the rest goes). Some say that they will make adjustments once the children come, but the big question is, what will the state of your home be when the said children come? Will you be two strangers living together for the sake of the children?
The small things count, for instance how many times do you talk to your significant other in a day? Are you too engrossed in other meetings that you forget to call/text/chat them the whole day? Sparing a few minutes to talk to your spouse can make all the difference. I’ve learned that scheduling communication helps to ensure that it is not over-looked. It sounds a bit boring, but if you schedule all important meetings then talking to your spouse should make it to your schedule. The best thing is that it also helps you pray for your spouse in real time as the events unfold, and prayer does change things.
If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.
Have you set aside time to regularly spend time with your spouse? with your children? Do you guard your time together? Do you pray together? A family that prays together, stays together.
Family is such a powerful tool, it intimidates the devil. The reality is that the he does not want your family to work. His tactic is simple:- Steal-Kill-Destroy. So he will start by stealing your time together (all of a sudden ‘important’ things come up and family time is what is sacrificed), then he will kill the joy in your home (it will be like walking on egg shells in your own home as love and laughter begin to wane) before you know it…he has destroyed it (your happy home is but a distant memory). (John 10:10)
Invite the Lord to help you choose to stay married daily and to help you build your home.
Psalm 127:1a (NIV)
Unless the Lord builds the house,
the builders labor in vain.
Take your place and fight for your family. Make the decisions that need to be made and watch your marriage and family flourish 🙂 .
Have a blessed week,