The first year of marriage is sometimes the hardest. When you get home from the honeymoon reality hits home and the first couple of months can seem like quite the opposite of bliss.
My friend Mrs O, figured out how to make honeymoon a lifestyle rather than a stage in marriage.
We met on Facebook. Yes, social media can be useful. I knew him, but he didn’t know me. Childhood insomnia for him I guess 😉 . But that didn’t stop us from talking. He was miles away, so Facebook and phone calls worked for us. Then he decided to return home (Kenya) and I was ecstatic but I didn’t want to give away my excitement too easy. We hadn’t started dating yet but we liked each other. A few movie and coffee dates later, and he asked me out.
A year later, he asked me to marry him. And seven months later, we were married. Many thought we were moving too fast, but we were each other’s answered prayer. However, it didn’t start out smooth. Many people say the first months are honeymoon months. For us, it was more of petty fights and arguing. Thing is, we weren’t used to living together. So the small things irked each one of us. He would piss me off. I would piss him off. But we eventually learned to appreciate each other’s differences. We were not the same. Our differences are what made us love each other. And once we realized that, it’s been honeymoon ever since 🙂
One thing that has kept us in love…is God. We pray together. But we also spend time with God on our own. Once you develop a personal relationship with God, you’ll know how to relate to your spouse. He teaches you how to love, how to care for your spouse and how to give without expecting to receive equal measure. Basically, a marriage founded on God and His principles, succeeds. Even after being blessed with a child, we still work towards our relationship.
Marriage is how you make it be. Tailor it to your needs. Just like a fingerprint, every marriage is unique.
Mrs. O 🙂
All marriages are happy. It’s the living together afterward that causes all the trouble.- Raymond Hull
Adjusting to living with someone else can be difficult and finding joy in the new living arrangement may seem close to impossible. It may take some time to get used to, but it gets better and the honeymoon can become a lifestyle.