I remember planning my wedding like it was yesterday. I used to sit and dream about what I wanted on the day. Choosing the color scheme was my favorite part; because I couldn’t decide on two or three so I chose all six of them :).
Wedding planning reveals to you just how precise you can be. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder traits may rear their heads. Even those who never cared much about certain things may find themselves being quite passionate about the small details.
Then comes the wedding day, after all the planning, not much is within your control. You can’t be saying your vows and making sure the food is ready at the same time, well unless you are a super hero of sorts. On the day, you have to let go and let God (well, and the people running the show behind the scenes).
At the end of the day, you can evaluate the event, but even if the caterer failed on his part there is not much you can do. Yes, you can complain, demand for a refund and flood social media platforms with your experience, but at the end of the day if the food sucked, it sucked.
Fast forward to marriage, days turn into weeks, weeks into months and months into years. The best part is that marriage is a journey. Calculate how much time you spent planning for the wedding: reading marriage blogs, visiting wedding vendors, committee meetings, site visits etc. It amounts to quite a bit, unless of course you rocked up at the AG’s and had a short and simple ceremony.
Now think about how much time you spend setting goals for your marriage and planning action points?
A couple of days ago, my hubby and I started taking about where we want to see our marriage at the end of 2015. The conversation ended in us coming up with a small challenge that we shared with some of our married friends to do and their feedback was very good.
Discuss and write down two aspects of your marriage that you would like to see grow in 2015. Break them down in to quarterly action points.
Examples of aspects are: communication, financial health, fitness and health, friendship, time management, giving, travelling, learning new skills.
An example is:-
Goal:- To be a fit and healthy couple; to lose/gain x Kgs by the end of the year.
Go for a full body checkup; exercise together three times a week; eliminate sugar/white carbs from diet
Eat out less often; try out new healthy recipes at home
Climb Ngong hills; climb Mount Longonot; climb Mount Kenya
Run 10kms weekly ; run a marathon together.
Growth is intentional. The end result may seem impossible in January but the little baby steps will help you achieve it.
Philippians 4:13 (NIV)
I can do all things through him who gives me strength.
With God all things are possible. Take it a day at a time and review the action points every quarter.
Enjoy your marriage; may 2015 not just be like any other year, may it be bigger and better. May December find you and yours at a better place by His grace.