I didn’t know how powerful these little chemical signals were until about a year ago. Even before I put the puzzle together and realized I was carrying a little human, they showed me how much havoc they can cause.
You see, I always thought that pregnancy meant a yummy glow. What I got was more like a severe blow from hormone central. ACNE! I am familiar with acne, we became acquainted in my teenage years and as much as I was hoping that our relationship would be short, it continued for too many years. I thought that pregnancy would be my ‘big break’, shock on me! My T-zone decided to expand its boundaries and bring a friend along, eczema :(.
When the acne finally subsided, somebody pumped my face with air. I am not exaggerating. My nose became puffy..err..larger than it is on a normal day. Thank the Lord it came back to normal :).
I was so used to sleeping on my tummy that I couldn’t imagine anything else. When my honeymoon period ended, I realized that I needed to adapt quickly. The growing tummy did not leave any room for negotiation, sleeping on my side was my only option.
The cravings; they deserve a whole blog post. They were as diverse as they get. What I loved one day could repulse me the next. It was quite ridiculous looking back. However trying to understand cravings logically is quite the wrong approach to understanding the power of hormones.
Initially, the acne and eczema would really bother me and I would spend a considerable amount of time examining them in front of a mirror. Looking back, I wish that was what it took to eradicate them completely. One of my mirrors in my house was not as ‘cruel’ as the rest, I assume it has something to do with the angle and lighting. It showed me what I wanted to see, i.e it was not that bad. It was my consolation base.
*Marriage is like a magnifying glass into your soul. You can change certain aspects of your spouse and marriage but if you don’t change within, then it is pointless. Sometimes the problem is not the mirror but the person looking into it.
Cleaning mirrors is a delicate process – at least if you don’t want to scratch them. Admonishing your spouse should be done gently. They may look tough on the outside but something you do or say could leave a lasting scratch or mark. Too much pressure could break them.
While you work on your self, pray for your spouse, not the other way around.
*Every pregnancy is unique and so is every marriage. Don’t believe everything that you hear, sometimes the glow comes a couple of months later but it does not negate the beauty of the journey.
*Just like my nose, the small issues may seem very big at some time, but after a while they go back to their normal shape and size :). Don’t sweat the small big stuff.
*Adaptation is key. Don’t be so rigid. Sometimes life leaves us no choice but to change. You learn on the job, even I who swore by sleeping on my tummy had to learn the balancing act on my left side and I survived. Nothing lasts forever, you may dislike the season at first but it too shall pass.
*Pass on the knowledge. Share the little pearls of wisdom that you pick along the way with someone else.
*Don’t assume that you know everything about yourself or your spouse. Each passing day, you are both changing. What you like now will not be what you like a couple of years down the line. Cravings taught me this important lesson. My shopping list would change bi-monthly, if hubby made the mistake of not clarifying what I currently liked, he would end up having to partake it himself.
For the precious ladies getting married this month, the countdown is ON. May God go ahead of you. May you enjoy your big day and the countless sleepovers with your bestfriends.