It is important to know what your non-negotiables and negotiable terms are. Keeping your non-negotiables the main thing helps you protect yourself from disappointment and regret.
Over the last year, my non-negotiables have changed a lot. In fact I remember writing a list of the things I HAD to have before Miss K came, I got most of them before she landed and some I got as she has been with us. However, looking back I have realized that some of the things were not as necessary as I thought. It is easy to focus my energy on the negotiable terms and miss out on the real must-haves.
The same thing applies to my personal life, sometimes I invest so much of my energy and time on things that are neither here nor there. I am willing to sacrifice greatly for some seemingly important but rather useless things.
In fact, a couple of months ago I needed to take a social media break. It hit me that I was miraculously finding time for it (please note my sarcasm) yet the things that I was really passionate about were suffering. So I had to re-evaluate my non-negotiable and negotiable terms.
This is my non-negotiable term:-
Guarding my heart is not as easy as it may seem at face value. It is a deliberate decision everyday to let God renew my mind by focusing on Him and letting Him fill me. Sometimes, when I watch a sad series I end up feeling sad. So I have had to reevaluate what I fill my heart with.
This verse below, put everything into perspective for me.
1 John 5:21 (NLT Gift & Award Version)
Dear children, keep away from anything that might take God’s place in your hearts.
Guarding my heart is about keeping Jesus on the throne of my heart. Keeping away from anything that could take His place. Whatever threatens His Lordship must go. I must serve the eviction notice daily and let God lead me. It is just not about giving Jesus the wheel, but giving Him the whole car and letting Him do with it as He pleases.
What are your non-negotiable and negotiable terms? What is your above all else?
May God remain the Lord of your heart this week, and, may He lead you in every thing that you do.