Training Wheels

“Mama, just let her play with it.” Ksena said to me as we watched Ky attempt to eat board book. She’s teething, these teeth have been coming out for three months. Today, one finally broke through (cue ululations). I’m excited, I can’t say the same about my nipples and Ky’s earlobes, they are both about to be conditioned. Our toothless smile is turning into a two-toothed smile.

Over the last nine months, our home and hearts have been transformed. Yesterday as I watched the girls played, I said to Peter, that I almost don’t remember life before Ky came. She has warmed our hearts, her joy has radiated everywhere she has gone. She greets us with smiles every morning and wakes Ksena up by shouting, ‘Dada Dada Dada’. If Ksena wakes up before Ky, she asks two questions: “Where is my sister? How was her night?” once you have answered these questions to her satisfaction, then she asks you to pray.

Sisterhood has made Ksena more empathetic. Granted that there are times that I have to remind her to be kind to Ky, or to use her kind voice, being a sister has brought out a softer, caring and protective side. The transition from being an only child to a big sister has been smooth. Initially, there were a few regressions but all in all, there has been a lot of progress.

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Training a child in the way that they should go is like playing a cd on loop, both the audio and video. It is setting an example in speech and deeds. I repeat myself severally. When I am tempted to get frustrated and irritated, I remember the love and grace that the Lord has extended to me. Sometimes the bible seems repetitive, but we are children, the more we hear and internalize, the more we are transformed.

A few months ago, Ksena wasn’t bothered to learn how to peddle her tricycle. She preferred to be pushed, sometimes she would attempt to peddle while the bike was already in motion. Other times, she would just sit pretty and enjoy the ride. She wasn’t bothered that other children knew how to ride, one day, she woke up and peddled. Now she is ready for a bicycle with training wheels. The training doesn’t stop until she learns to cycle and balance on her own.

From time to time (more like every other week), I am asked a question that compares the girls’ development. Ksena’s teeth popped when she was much younger, but Ky has started cruising earlier than Ksena did. I am learning to let them grow at their pace. Growth is not a competition, everyone is on their own journey. What is important is that we all make it to our destinations, so we walk if we can, and crawl if we must. As long as we don’t stop moving.

Our girls were dedicated to the Lord this past weekend, it was beautiful and powerful service. Aside from the emotions, we were reminded our mandate to train up these girls in the ways of the Lord. To speak truth into their lives. To teach them truth. It’s a huge task and responsibility, one that we cannot delegate.  Sometimes the task at hand seems daunting but we have to remember that we have an ever present help, a counselor, the Holy Spirit who leads us into truth. We continue to trust Him to reveal to us who they are as individuals that we may raise them with clarity just like Manoah and his wife did. I pray that they will walk in their God given purposes, that they will get to their destination with unwavering faith in God who formed them in my womb, for the glory of His name.

 

 

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Mumsanity

Motherhood is wonderful, but it is also hard work. It’s the logistics more than anything. You discover you have reserves of energy you didn’t know you had. – Deborah Mailman

Before I became a mother, I thought I knew myself, my strengths and weaknesses. That all changed last year, when I discovered reservoirs of strength that I knew nothing about. I was stretched beyond my previously known limits, but by God’s grace, I survived.

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I thought it gets easier as the babies  grow older, but I have quickly realized that each season has its challenges. The current season’s challenges may be different from the last’s but they are challenges in their own right.

Here are a few tips that help me maintain my sanity as I raise our daughter, Ksena.

  • Wake up before your baby

It helps to get a head start into the day. For a long time, I used to wake up when Miss K woke up, but, I realized I was a bit of a grump. I would boot as she was all cheery, and my mood, or lack thereof, would not match up to her energy. She is a morning person and I am a warm-up-into-the-day person.

A friend told me that I should try wake up before her and the results have been amazing. When she wakes up, I am ready for her, emotionally and physically. My energy levels match hers.

  • Dress up nicely

Being a stay at home mum is not an excuse to look drab.

How you look affects how you feel. When I feel bleugh, I know that a quick outfit change can spruce up my mood.

Being a stay at home mum is a job too. So dress up nicely; wear a little make up for yourself, if it makes you happy.  Your body may have changed, but it is still yours, so love it or at least learn to love it as you plan to change it.

  • Reflect in the silence

Reflect on the previous day, what did do you do? how did you feel? what didn’t you manage to do? Plan for the day and write down your plan to keep yourself accountable.

  • Feed your body

Have a good breakfast without interruptions. This is the equivalent of going on date by yourself (: .Taste the flavors and chew slowly; I learned the hard way that sometimes these are luxuries, especially when you are newborn hazing. Choose foods that will keep you full longer; make healthier food choices, swap the sugar for some honey, increase your water intake.

  • Get inspired

Read the Bible, let God speak to you and encourage your heart. Pray and listen to uplifting music. From there you will be able to speak into your family’s life and encourage other people. You can only give what you have.

  • Purpose to enjoy

Decide to enjoy the day. Do things that you love with your little one. Be present, persistent and intentional. Teach them something new.

Above all, remember to live, laugh and love.

Happy Parenting!

Blessings,

Bibi2be

Are You Preparing Your Child For Eternity?

A couple of months ago, I read a post online that revolutionized my parenting.

The post posed a basic question:

‘Are you preparing your child for eternity?’

The reality is that, though we would all love our children to live until they are grey, some children pass away at a tender age. The length of their days is not ours to dictate.

Though we would like to guide our children till they are grey, our longevity is not in our hands. God has determined the length of our days. Oh, that we would learn to number our days.

Death is inevitable. It is a matter of ‘when’.
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Sometimes we get so sucked up by life on this earth that we forget it is just but a corridor and not the destination. Though it’s length may differ from individual to individual, it will surely come to an end. How we live here, determines what happens on the other side.

A crucial part of our job description as parents is to prepare our children for eternity. However, it is difficult to teach what we do not know and believe.

Do you believe that Christ is coming back?

Does this belief influence your daily life?

Do your children see this influence?

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This has been such a conviction for me. I discussed these thoughts with a friend of mine recently and she told me that though she knew her mum to be a staunch Christian in theory, she never once received an invitation to know this God personally. She never even saw her mum read her bible. This salvation was never shared; it was like a badge to be displayed but not to be touched. You had to believe that God is good because she said so. As my friend has grown older, she has struggled to relate with the Holy Spirit because He seems so foreign.

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Below are a few tips that I have gathered the last couple of months to help one prepare their children for eternity.

  • Show your children that it is important to prepare for eternity

If you believe that preparation for eternity is crucial, invite your children see you prepare. Let them see you doing your quiet time so that they can become familiar with the concept.

  • Teach them about God and eternity

Study the Word of God with them. Introduce family devotion time. Pray with them and give them an opportunity to pray.

As you teach them, allow them to question; it’s not about believing because you said so! Allow them to experience the Holy Spirit. He is able to open up their hearts and minds to heavenly treasures and realities.

Spend time in the Word and ask the Holy Spirit to teach and equip you to be a prepared witness at all times.

  • Create a suitable environment for them to pursue God

It’s about planting a seed and letting God, our gardener, tend to it. For the seed to grow, we can introduce things that promote a better environment.

Listen to music that edifies the spirit. Create a prayer chart, where you write the things you are trusting God for, and the breakthroughs when they happen. Have a weekly bible verse for each family member to memorize, so that you encourage hiding God’s word in your heart. Show them how to apply the verses that they memorize to their everyday lives.

In conclusion,

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There is something about child-like faith that we need to leverage on. Teach them when they are young, before the things and pleasures of this world define their stand. So that their stand in this world will be defined by their preparation for eternity.

If your child is a little older, give them an opportunity to receive salvation. Evangelize to them.

I will be sharing tips over the next couple of weeks, of how I’m teaching my toddler about God and eternity. I believe that this is the best time to start because she learns both actively and passively.

Blessings,

Bibi2be