Super Mama

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Motherhood is a calling. It is full time, all the time, all day, er’day. It never ends. Even when the little ones grow up and move out, they still remain your little ones in bigger bodies, ask your mama. My respect for my mummy has increased tremendously since I had a baby – she truly is super mama.

Sometimes being super mama, maintaining the life and work balance, can get overwhelming; especially when sleep deprivation is playing a role. We are currently in between a growth spurt and sleep regression. Exhausted does not begin to describe how I feel (teehee I thought today was Thursday). It’s been a long week.

Someone mentioned that the work really begins once you start weaning, but meal planning saves the day. A fews day ago, a friend asked me what time I have breakfast and I said about 10am. She asked if my mornings were ‘that busy’ and I chuckled to myself. They feel like rush hour in Nairobi minus the Kidero drums 🙂 (which have now been removed) ; the things to do are lined up, bumper to bumper, as we race against time.

Miss K keeps me busy when she is awake, sometimes I can’t wait for her to sleep, then when she does I miss her; human beings are special :). I miss having unlimited alone time, though I have made peace within myself that it will never be the same. There will be portions of alone time but I will not be able to be a ‘free little bird’ ,though ,this doesn’t rule out spontaneity . I often wonder what I used to do before Miss K came.

One day as I was asking God who helps the helper (Super Mama), I was led to this scripture:-

Psalm 121 (NIV)

I lift up my eyes to the mountains—
    where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord,
    the Maker of heaven and earth.

He will not let your foot slip—
    he who watches over you will not slumber;
indeed, he who watches over Israel
    will neither slumber nor sleep.

The Lord watches over you—
    the Lord is your shade at your right hand;
the sun will not harm you by day,
    nor the moon by night.

The Lord will keep you from all harm—
    he will watch over your life;
the Lord will watch over your coming and going
    both now and forevermore.

God helps the helper!

When I feel overwhelmed, I remind myself that it is HE who helps me; it is HE who gives me the strength and grace for today and tomorrow; it is HE who preserves me and renews me. It is HE who satisfies me with His unfailing love and watches over my coming and going.

If you are feeling a little overwhelmed, I pray that God will refresh you, give you energy that comes from above and satisfy you with His unfailing love.

Something that I am trying to incorporate to my daily schedule is, setting aside 30 minutes every day for myself and doing something that makes me happy. This will help me to slow down, recharge and be refreshed and rejuvenated. It may sound like a short time but it can do wonders. Some activities that I am considering are:- reading a book, knitting, crafting, baking, taking a walk, retail therapy, working out, home body scrubs, and mani-pedis. I will feedback on how that goes in a few days.

If you find yourself always serving others and barely getting time to take care of yourself, it is time to re-do your schedule and feature yourself on the priority list. Better still, if you are in Nairobi and you would like a one stop break:- adult conversation (Lord knows how precious this is), networking with mums (who won’t mind if you go on and on about your litu one), a massage, manicure and photo shoot, Kenyan Mums have got you covered.

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Remember

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Do your best and leave the rest to God. Nothing is impossible for Him.

Blessings,

Bibi2Be

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Lessons From My Daughter (Pt 2)

The beautiful thing about learning is that no one is too young or old to teach and/or learn. Learning is more than what is taught in the classroom, it is a culmination of little lessons packed in real life experiences. As long as you are willing to learn, you will pick valuable lessons from the strangest of places.

Motherhood is my ‘strange place’ and my lil girl keeps teaching me timely refreshing lessons. It is a humbling experience to learn from one who doesn’t quite meet the age requirement of a teacher in a school setting.

1. Laugh Heartily

Lil Miss K laughs like a little grown up- you know a proper ‘ha ha ha’ laugh. It often catches us unaware but has us laughing as well. Sometimes I am slightly concerned that she thinks we have funny faces 😉 or she keeps remembering a private joke about us and bursts out into laughter. All in all, I wouldn’t trade the hearty laughs for anything. They are heartwarming.

In an age where you can see something funny and respond ‘lol’ with a straight face, I am reminded to actually laugh out loud. The most important lesson is to laugh at myself. Sometimes I take life and myself a tad bit too seriously. Most of the things that I frown about are really never that serious in light of the bigger picture.

I’ve purposed to laugh everyday this year and spread the good cheer. There are so many things to be sad about but if we all shared with someone one thing to laugh about, the world would truly be a jollier place.

2. Necessity Is The Mother Of Invention

When her soother kept falling out of her mouth while she was asleep, she would feel for it and if she found it she would put it back in her mouth. Sometimes the angle was wrong but she eventually figured it out. If she wasn’t able to find it she would cry to let us know she wanted it back in her mouth as soon as possible. About a month ago,  we realized she no longer cried for help. If she couldn’t find it, she would just suck her fingers instead. Voila,  just like that she became more independent, with or without the soother the dreams would continue.

I was challenged by this little girl to INNOVATE. It is okay to sit, well…lie and cry but after a while I should try and work around the situation. I never know, I may just surprise myself and find a solution.

3. Silence Does Not Mean Neglect

Every evening there is a rush hour in the K household; it usually ends up in a relaxing bath for lil missy. Sometimes she gets a bit cranky by the time I start preparing her bath stuff, so she may want some extra TLC.

Three weeks ago as I prepared her stuff she started getting edgy and I could hear her letting me know exactly that in baby language (the tone said it all). I entered the bathroom to get something and for a minute I was silent. She got so cross and started to cry. I came out, picked her up, held her and begun to explain to her that just because there was silence for a minute did not mean that I had neglected her. I was actually putting things together for her bath. Once she was in her tub, she was as happy as a lark; she loves the water. All her worries were washed away and she understood (or so I hope) that I had not forgotten her.

When God is silent, it does not mean that He has forgotten me or neglected me. He is usually working in the background for my good. Though I don’t hear Him I can still trust that He has my best interests at heart. This is such a simple and humbling truth. I can trust His plan.

Romans 8:28 (NIV)

28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

Hearty laughs and toothless smiles from the pretty lady 🙂

Blessings,

Bibi2Be